I just watched this movie called “Motherhood” by Uma Thurman and I think the movie made me think that motherhood is not a very wonderful or beautiful thing like how my mom and generations before her claims it to be (well actually my grandmother from mom side said it was harsh experience – I don’t blame her). But I’m also not saying being a parent is a bad thing, it’s just it can be very difficult and rewarding at the same time. But the issue is how to balance it.
I know my parents made tons of sacrifices and they taught us important lessons when we were kids. You can’t always have everything you want and if you want something you need to prove yourself worthy for it and if you get 3 fails in your report card there will be punishment.
I remember going to school and watching my classmates with fancier pencil box and watch etc, I would ask my parents for it and they always say “you already have that, its still a pencil box no matter what color it is”. I remember when I was a kid, I ask my dad to buy me a box of chocolate, that all my friends brag about at school and he told me if I could spell the word chocolate in both languages (English and Malay) he will get it for me. Since spelling was my weakest back then, I remember getting it wrong numerous times and I finally gave up. My sister being the smart one immediately wrote the correct spelling, although she didn’t get the chocolate she was happy to see me cry for it LOL.
But guess what ! I remembered how to spell that word correctly from then onwards. I think my parents did a great job of not simply giving in to all our demands and that made us very grateful for what we got. I still remember the big baby dolls my mom bought for us when we were kids, we NEVER NEVER threw that dolls away, and in fact I still have this dolls in my room (15 years later) . Every now and then my cousins or nephews comes over and gawk at the dolls because they're in such good condition.
Innocent Dolls by ~deviki9 on deviantART
So I guess we turn out pretty good ! LOL
2 comments:
Ironically I am reading this post at the same time the Casey Anthony trial, which was an extreme case of bad parenting.
Being a parent is definitely a rewarding experience but when to become one is a decision that should be given a prolonged consideration..after all how you do the first 15 guide what you do the next 50!! :)
I think you have some great parents. Being a new parent myself with a 17 month old son, it *is* both difficult and rewarding. It's amazing to wake up on an almost daily basis and see my son physically change, to listen to the way he's trying to communicate, and to see how much he enjoys life and being around people. Let me tell you, given the amount of stress that a child brings to a relationship, there's *nothing* that can compare to the happiness that he's given to both my wife and me.
We have just another 17 years before he's an "adult", and I'm sure we'll be doing the same things your parents have done to you :-) Heh...should be a blast!
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